Meme-oires 28: Something That You Miss
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jamesqI miss my friends.
Oh not all of my friends, because some of them are still right here. And not the ones who turned out to be assholes - good riddance to them I say.
No, the ones I miss are the ones that have moved away (![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
zapgun4hire, missymorgan1, bungle_lord), or the ones that were far away to begin with (somejauntypolka, domyoji, bognaustroglum, whiggy_one), or ones that are still nearby, but who have simply drifted away socially (kermie_canada, wackynephews, wendy_licious, spookiemonkie2).
I'm not sure what happened with that last category. Distant friends I at least have an excuse for not seeing regularly (and a built in reason to travel). The ones nearby? Who knows.
Well that's not entirely true. Nothing is stopping me from calling any of them up. I'm just a little scared that this scenario will repeat itself:
Not everyone is like this, even with a break in time or geography.evilscientist for example is still a very close friend, even though we haven't really talked in months. I have no doubt that we'll fall back into an easy familiarity the next time we see each other though.
Oh not all of my friends, because some of them are still right here. And not the ones who turned out to be assholes - good riddance to them I say.
No, the ones I miss are the ones that have moved away (
zapgun4hire, missymorgan1, bungle_lord), or the ones that were far away to begin with (somejauntypolka, domyoji, bognaustroglum, whiggy_one), or ones that are still nearby, but who have simply drifted away socially (kermie_canada, wackynephews, wendy_licious, spookiemonkie2).I'm not sure what happened with that last category. Distant friends I at least have an excuse for not seeing regularly (and a built in reason to travel). The ones nearby? Who knows.
Well that's not entirely true. Nothing is stopping me from calling any of them up. I'm just a little scared that this scenario will repeat itself:
Me: How come we never hang out anymore. It's like I'm being ostracized.I know that's not going to happen (hell, I've seen a few of them recently). There's also something a little awkward about hanging out with someone you were very close with, whom you haven't seen in ages. There's a bond, but it's frayed now, especially if they've had some huge life-changing event happen to them that you have a hard time relating to. Children for example.
Eeyore: That's because you are. Nobody wants you around.
Not everyone is like this, even with a break in time or geography.
evilscientist for example is still a very close friend, even though we haven't really talked in months. I have no doubt that we'll fall back into an easy familiarity the next time we see each other though.
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Date: 2010-09-29 01:29 am (UTC)Please don't reload :-)
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Date: 2010-09-29 10:43 pm (UTC)It's hard when lives that used to run together start to drift apart - different pastimes, hobbies, priorities...
Will we see you at the THUA?
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Date: 2010-09-29 11:18 pm (UTC)I doubt I'll be at THUA. SCA feels too much like a chore these days, so I'm picking and choosing which events I'll go to (next three likely targets are Harvest Feast, Montengarde 12th Night, Estrella).
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Date: 2010-09-30 02:26 am (UTC)Brucie.