Black and White
Oct. 16th, 2013 11:59 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jamesqThe big news among my friends in Vancouver was ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
somejauntypolka's pregnancy. In the months leading up to it, I had learned from common friends (and AA herself) that they were being deliberately vague as to who the father was since she's in a stable, long-term, polyamourous relationship with two men. Both men look very alike (blonde, pale, nerdy-with-glasses), to the point were they're often assumed - incorrectly - to be brothers.
Anyway, I'm sure they know who the father is (it's important for issues related to K's long-term health), and it's also no one else's business. The point is that K has three parents and nobody outside the family is supposed to be making value judgements about who the "real" father is. Also, when someone says "he's got his father's eyes", a strong case could be made for both Dads, since they look so similar.
That was what I was thinking about regarding the upcoming birth. So when K's birth finally occurred, I was expecting a child who was like the Dads - so white he was damn near ultraviolet.
They posted a picture of baby K and my first thought was "Why is that kid so dark?". After a few beats, my second thought was "Oh, right. AA is black". It had completely slipped my mind.
I told this story to assorted Vancouver folk this weekend, including AA herself. They all laughed out loud. And she gave me permission to post this.
somejauntypolka's pregnancy. In the months leading up to it, I had learned from common friends (and AA herself) that they were being deliberately vague as to who the father was since she's in a stable, long-term, polyamourous relationship with two men. Both men look very alike (blonde, pale, nerdy-with-glasses), to the point were they're often assumed - incorrectly - to be brothers.Anyway, I'm sure they know who the father is (it's important for issues related to K's long-term health), and it's also no one else's business. The point is that K has three parents and nobody outside the family is supposed to be making value judgements about who the "real" father is. Also, when someone says "he's got his father's eyes", a strong case could be made for both Dads, since they look so similar.
That was what I was thinking about regarding the upcoming birth. So when K's birth finally occurred, I was expecting a child who was like the Dads - so white he was damn near ultraviolet.
They posted a picture of baby K and my first thought was "Why is that kid so dark?". After a few beats, my second thought was "Oh, right. AA is black". It had completely slipped my mind.
I told this story to assorted Vancouver folk this weekend, including AA herself. They all laughed out loud. And she gave me permission to post this.
