Go Not to the Wizards For Council...
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jamesq...For they are soggy and hard to light For they will say both yay and nay.
Here are my answers to![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
sagaciouslu's questions for this meme.
With a group, it becomes a big adventure and you get spurred on by the most adventurous person in the group (assuming you're not all pussies). This happened more then once on my recent trip to the old world. Also, there's just something right when you get a bunch of friends together for a trip. As I get older, simply getting everyone to commit the same window of time becomes a rare and special thing all by itself. It's the same reason why we don't roleplay as much as we used to - everyone has jobs now.
But I think what I like best is just going with one other person (we'll assume it's someone you can get along with for days at a time). To top it off, it's nice when one or the other person has special knowledge of the area and can act as a guide. I went to Vancouver for a weekend withhislittlekitty a few years ago and it was a blast mostly for this reason. I also liked going to SCA events with conejita_dialba for this reason - I got to play guide. Of course, she knows more people then I do now, so the tables have turned.
They're all good, but "with one other" is perfect.
In general I'd say it's true. As the owner of a faint heart, my record in winning fair ladies has been pretty poor. In much the same way as people who never buy lottery tickets never actually win anything.
I wouldn't actually call myself love shy (mostly because I only fit about a third of the qualifications, but also because "love-shyness" needs a helluva lot more research before it can claim to be a real disorder and not just a special case of social anxiety), mostly because I do have plenty of friendships with women. In the last few years I've also occasionally asked women out (with success levels ranging from "crappy" to "pleasent").
The problem is that success builds confidence and failure tears it down. To be less faint, you need to have evidence that the goal is worth the trouble. Luckily, my self-confidence in this matter has been improving a lot lately.
Appetizers should be light and whet the appetite, without sating it.
The meal should be savoury, made from quality ingredients by someone who know what they're doing. There should be a variety of tastes. There should be exactly enough to sate without feeling like you're going to explode. Dessert should be something small and sweet.
You'll notice I haven't mentioned what the food would actually be yet - it's because What I want to eat changes all the time. Somedays I'll want pizza, and other days I'll want the Butternut Squash and Roasted Carrot Soup followed by the Supreme Breast of Chicken. I've been known to have sushi on rare occasions too.
Here are my answers to
sagaciouslu's questions for this meme.1. Travelling alone, with one other, or a group: which is best for you?Depends on my mood. I like all three. By yourself you keep your own council and can do pretty much anything you feel like. I like checking out nerdy things. Sometimes I just like fucking the dog, something I'd feel vaguely guilty about if I were with someone else. I especially like doing this in Vancouver - which explains the inordinate amount of time I've spent in Calhoun's.
With a group, it becomes a big adventure and you get spurred on by the most adventurous person in the group (assuming you're not all pussies). This happened more then once on my recent trip to the old world. Also, there's just something right when you get a bunch of friends together for a trip. As I get older, simply getting everyone to commit the same window of time becomes a rare and special thing all by itself. It's the same reason why we don't roleplay as much as we used to - everyone has jobs now.
But I think what I like best is just going with one other person (we'll assume it's someone you can get along with for days at a time). To top it off, it's nice when one or the other person has special knowledge of the area and can act as a guide. I went to Vancouver for a weekend with
hislittlekitty a few years ago and it was a blast mostly for this reason. I also liked going to SCA events with conejita_dialba for this reason - I got to play guide. Of course, she knows more people then I do now, so the tables have turned.They're all good, but "with one other" is perfect.
2. 'A faint heart never a fair lady won.' Discuss.Well you can always just wait for the fair lady to hit you on the head with her club and drag you off to her cave. This does occasionally work, but the odds aren't good. Strangely, I have at least two aquaintances for whom that has worked (as far as I know, they're both still happily married). They're also the first to tell me I have to get out and meet more girls though. Good advice, but the source always leaves me scratching my head in wonder.
In general I'd say it's true. As the owner of a faint heart, my record in winning fair ladies has been pretty poor. In much the same way as people who never buy lottery tickets never actually win anything.
I wouldn't actually call myself love shy (mostly because I only fit about a third of the qualifications, but also because "love-shyness" needs a helluva lot more research before it can claim to be a real disorder and not just a special case of social anxiety), mostly because I do have plenty of friendships with women. In the last few years I've also occasionally asked women out (with success levels ranging from "crappy" to "pleasent").
The problem is that success builds confidence and failure tears it down. To be less faint, you need to have evidence that the goal is worth the trouble. Luckily, my self-confidence in this matter has been improving a lot lately.
3. Describe, in detail, a perfect meal.You should go into it a little hungry, but not starving. You should have good company - enough people to have a decent round-table discussion, but no so many that people get excluded or it splits into satellite conversations. The atmosphere should be condusive to conversation.
Appetizers should be light and whet the appetite, without sating it.
The meal should be savoury, made from quality ingredients by someone who know what they're doing. There should be a variety of tastes. There should be exactly enough to sate without feeling like you're going to explode. Dessert should be something small and sweet.
You'll notice I haven't mentioned what the food would actually be yet - it's because What I want to eat changes all the time. Somedays I'll want pizza, and other days I'll want the Butternut Squash and Roasted Carrot Soup followed by the Supreme Breast of Chicken. I've been known to have sushi on rare occasions too.
4. Ethics asks questions like 'Is it wrong to roast cats'. Meta-ethics asks about the foundations upon which we base our ethical assessments. For example, a Divine Voluntarist (i.e., "God told me to.") might say that he follows the teachings of the Bible, and while it says don't kill in the 10 commandments, in Genesis God gave man dominion over the 'beasts of the field'. So, from his perspective, roasting cats is okey-dokey. What, then, is your meta-ethical foundation?My "foundation" is western liberal philosophy, as tempered through the scientific method and my own experiences. Being a secular humanist I reject the idea that our ethics are imposed on us by a supernatural being. Ethics must benefit us and that benefit must be obvious and/or demonstrable.
5. My major turn-ons are eyes, face, and voice. What are yours?A shapely, but athletic build. Sharp exotic facial features. A warm smile that touches the eyes.
