Black and White
Oct. 16th, 2013 11:59 pmThe big news among my friends in Vancouver was
somejauntypolka's pregnancy. In the months leading up to it, I had learned from common friends (and AA herself) that they were being deliberately vague as to who the father was since she's in a stable, long-term, polyamourous relationship with two men. Both men look very alike (blonde, pale, nerdy-with-glasses), to the point were they're often assumed - incorrectly - to be brothers.
Anyway, I'm sure they know who the father is (it's important for issues related to K's long-term health), and it's also no one else's business. The point is that K has three parents and nobody outside the family is supposed to be making value judgements about who the "real" father is. Also, when someone says "he's got his father's eyes", a strong case could be made for both Dads, since they look so similar.
That was what I was thinking about regarding the upcoming birth. So when K's birth finally occurred, I was expecting a child who was like the Dads - so white he was damn near ultraviolet.
They posted a picture of baby K and my first thought was "Why is that kid so dark?". After a few beats, my second thought was "Oh, right. AA is black". It had completely slipped my mind.
I told this story to assorted Vancouver folk this weekend, including AA herself. They all laughed out loud. And she gave me permission to post this.
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Anyway, I'm sure they know who the father is (it's important for issues related to K's long-term health), and it's also no one else's business. The point is that K has three parents and nobody outside the family is supposed to be making value judgements about who the "real" father is. Also, when someone says "he's got his father's eyes", a strong case could be made for both Dads, since they look so similar.
That was what I was thinking about regarding the upcoming birth. So when K's birth finally occurred, I was expecting a child who was like the Dads - so white he was damn near ultraviolet.
They posted a picture of baby K and my first thought was "Why is that kid so dark?". After a few beats, my second thought was "Oh, right. AA is black". It had completely slipped my mind.
I told this story to assorted Vancouver folk this weekend, including AA herself. They all laughed out loud. And she gave me permission to post this.