Strangely it doesnt mention anything about women giving up their seats for men. Why is chivalry a male only thing? I totally believe that no one should give up a seat for me just because I have more cleavage (not always in some cases but....) that is rediculous. Equality is equality. Mind you I don't think you need to be rude about it. Personally I thank men and women who hold the door open for me, and gladly will return the favor. I think the key is Mutual respect.
I don't expect men to hold doors for me or give me seats on a bus or any of the other things that would be considered chivalrous. When it is offered it means that much more, since it is not expected, and my respect for the individual increases greatly, man or woman. James, you are one of the most chivalrous men I know and even more so because you do it for the act itself not because you are looking for something in return. Caethes
I agree. Chivalry does not go one way. Chivalry is (and should be) for everyone to everyone. I (a female) offered my seat on the train to a pregnant lady the other day. A couple of months ago I saw a woman give up her seat to a man with CP. That's chivalry. Oh, and a note to the men. If a woman holds a door for you, don't refuse to go through. That ain't chivalry.
Sometimes, maybe more than you'd realize, not being offered a seat is empowering. There can be an element of condescension involved, whether to your sex or age (and always to your physical ability). If you still feel you should make the offer, "Would you care for this seat?" is more considerate than "Please take this seat."
Normally, I just vacate a seat once the bus or train starts to become crowded. No one could then feel obliged to me. No one can think I'm just out to make myself look good, which too often has been the motive behind a chivalrous gesture. :(
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Date: 2006-04-17 04:20 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-17 04:46 pm (UTC)Chivalry and Equality
Date: 2006-04-17 06:28 pm (UTC)Caethes
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Date: 2006-04-17 11:33 pm (UTC)I (a female) offered my seat on the train to a pregnant lady the other day. A couple of months ago I saw a woman give up her seat to a man with CP. That's chivalry.
Oh, and a note to the men. If a woman holds a door for you, don't refuse to go through. That ain't chivalry.
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Date: 2006-04-18 04:18 am (UTC)and miss you :(
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Date: 2006-04-27 02:09 am (UTC)I miss you too. Luckily tomorrow is tavern!
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Date: 2006-04-18 10:50 pm (UTC)Normally, I just vacate a seat once the bus or train starts to become crowded. No one could then feel obliged to me. No one can think I'm just out to make myself look good, which too often has been the motive behind a chivalrous gesture. :(