I'm the same way when talking to ladies, and I refuse to consider them as 't&a' like a lot of guys do when talking amongst themselves.
There are some things I have noticed. The really intelligent girls who are not avilable or interested will find some way of telling you. Usually in the first ten minutes of converstion, so pay attention. They will nonchalantly drop "the boyfriend" context so that means they just want to avoid leading you on. If they mention "the kids" they also want to warn you in advance, but they (usually) really like you (otherwise they would have mentioned a boyfriend). And, if they lead you on all night, try to cut them off from the drinks you were buying. If they just meander away then you were nothing but a free lunch and all they want is to get drunk at someone elses expense.
Personally I try to work fact that I am so oblivious to the whole dating game a woman would have to hit me with a french loaf to get my attention. One long baguette broken over my head, another extra crusty one to the hear (ouch) and a bagle later I've had some fun. Three meaningful women (although the bagel did knock me out) over the past few years was all I needed.
And you can meet nice women without lying to them. Maybe the venues are what need changing.
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momijizukamori
The same way
Date: 2006-05-30 06:02 am (UTC)There are some things I have noticed. The really intelligent girls who are not avilable or interested will find some way of telling you. Usually in the first ten minutes of converstion, so pay attention. They will nonchalantly drop "the boyfriend" context so that means they just want to avoid leading you on. If they mention "the kids" they also want to warn you in advance, but they (usually) really like you (otherwise they would have mentioned a boyfriend). And, if they lead you on all night, try to cut them off from the drinks you were buying. If they just meander away then you were nothing but a free lunch and all they want is to get drunk at someone elses expense.
Personally I try to work fact that I am so oblivious to the whole dating game a woman would have to hit me with a french loaf to get my attention. One long baguette broken over my head, another extra crusty one to the hear (ouch) and a bagle later I've had some fun. Three meaningful women (although the bagel did knock me out) over the past few years was all I needed.
And you can meet nice women without lying to them. Maybe the venues are what need changing.